Unlike other precious things in life, love isn’t something you can keep in a safety deposit. You have to make every effort to nurture and safeguard your relationship because it’s delicate enough to fall to pieces with a single jerk.
Here are some harsh truths that can help you set realistic relationship goals and ward off much of the foreseeable troubles.
1. The Perfect Match Is Merely An Illusion
It’s true that opposites attract. Two people with completely different traits and personalities often pair up in a romantic relationship. They may even complete each other beautifully.
But don’t assume they’re a perfect couple or it’s the ideal relationship.
A romantic relationship goes through many phases, going up and down the tides of perfection and imperfection. There will be moments of perfect bliss and also of petty arguments.
So, if you were under the illusion that you’ve fallen in love with your perfect partner, we’re really sorry to break the bubble!
Your “happily ever after” comes as a package, all-inclusive of disagreements and compromises.
2. There Are Secrets Between Lovers
What’s the most cliched commitment people make when they’re truly, madly, deeply in love?
“There’ll be no secrets between us.”
Well, that’s an impossible promise to keep!
It’s normal and healthy to have harmless secrets in a relationship – it is called respecting each other’s boundaries.
Basically, to save your sanity, you’ve got to use discretion to keep some things to yourself.
Like, you don’t have to tell your partner that it was a friend who reminded you of her birthday. You would have remembered by the end of the day anyway, right?
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3. Love Makes You Vulnerable
People in love feel secure and confident of not only their present but also their future. Indeed, this feeling gives a lot of strength to face life’s challenges and be the best version of themselves.
But there’s another side to this coin. The more you depend on your partner for moral support and emotional security, the more vulnerable you become.
Unfortunately, this vulnerability can trap people in toxic relationships, making them bear harassment and even abuse for years. Imagine, when cheater accuses you of cheating and you just take the blame because you’re too attached to walk away!
4. Attachment Can Survive A Breakup
Even if you find the courage in the spur of the moment and break up an unhappy relationship, getting over someone you’ve loved so much can take an eternity.
Studies have concluded that people can suffer years of depression after they end a relationship. The problem is especially acute in adolescents.
Most of them don’t want to accept that things have come to an end, and so they’re unable to find ways to move on. Things are much more difficult when there’s no way to cut your ex from your life, for instance when you’re in the same class or from the same neighborhood.
If you’ve just broken up with someone and decided to continue being friends, you should reconsider your decision, because it’s nearly impossible to get closure without distancing yourself from your ex.
5. Without Love, You Will Feel Remorseful
If you’re lucky enough to be able to move on from a relationship in good time, you’ll soon feel the need for love and companionship.
It’s not uncommon for single people to feel lonely and unsupported in the long run. This is true not only for those who actually desire to be in a committed relationship but are unable to find the right partner but also for those who have consciously elected to be single.
Remember, if you’ve been in a bad relationship, it’s not the end of the world. You still have a chance of finding a partner. More importantly, you deserve to experience the joy and fulfillment of being in a loving relationship.
Also, your attitude can make a great difference in your commitment to keeping the relationship going strong. So get rid of all negativity and give your best to make things work if you can!