Have you ever thought about dating a male model? It’s easy to see how it can be tempting- they are attractive, they understand your career, and they make excellent arm candy. If you find the right one, they are truly a female model’s best friend.

But there are some challenges to dating a male model – way beyond finding one that is heterosexual or actually interested in anyone other than himself- with male models you have to be able to separate the real from the fake, because just like many things in a model’s life- they aren’t always what they seem.

I once dated a male model- before I realized what I was truly looking for in a relationship. We had met on a shoot, and we developed some chemistry off-camera. It wasn’t that he was attractive; I deal with attractive guys all the time- it was his personality. I connected with him on a personal level, making him seem like he was real (unlike everyone else in this industry).

But that is where it ended.

Our first date consisted of him talking about all the shoots he had been on.

Our second date was all about his pet peeves and favorite designers, and on our third date he invited me to be his date at a runway show party.

After a while, it felt more like a job interview than a date.

And that is the challenge of dating male models. When your job is to be attractive, you tend to look for mates that add to your career rather than hinder it. Male models cannot afford to be seen with ugly girls, and female models are an easy solution. A female model is a pre-screened mate; guaranteed not to detract from the value of your brand.

Dating a male model has its perks, but it can be challenging. You have to be able to separate the guys that are actually looking for a relationship from those that are looking for career advancement, and it can be tricky- like applying individual eyelash extensions tricky. It’s not impossible though.

Male models can be boyfriend material, but just like any other guy you have to be selective. If you can find that one guy that is actually interested in you – and you are able to talk about things other than work- consider it a score.