Confidence is something that we talk about all of the time, but how many of us actually feel confident? How many of us genuinely feel that feeling of contentment with ourselves to the point that we are confident in how we look and who we are? The answer is likely not as many as you think, because confidence is one of the most faked feelings that there is. Everyone is always saying that if you don’t feel confident in yourself then you should fake it till you make it, but we don’t think that this is what you should be doing at all. There is no guarantee that faking it will lead to the real feeling, and you deserve the real thing.
So, instead, it’s important that you do some of the things necessary to feel confident in yourself rather than faking it. While it might be a longer road to take, it’s a far more genuine one and will build a strong confidence that it is difficult to shake. Keep reading if you are interested in finding out more about this topic.
Learn To Believe In Yourself
One of the things that you should be doing if you want to inspire confidence is learning to believe in yourself. Confidence is something that comes from within, and if you don’t believe in yourself, in your decision making, in your abilities, then you’re never going to feel this way. We understand that this is a lot easier said than done, but it’s important that you are trying at the very least. If you start small and then build your way up with this, eventually your feelings towards yourself will change, likely without you even realizing that this is what happened.
For example, if you start with something like making a decision and sticking to it without hesitation. It’s normal to wonder about other outcomes, but that doesn’t mean that you should wish you had chosen differently. You need to back yourself, and when you start doing this you will feel far more confident.
Change Only What You Want To Change
We live in a society that thrives on telling people that they have to look a certain way, dress a certain way, and act a certain way while also saying that we are all unique and should be ourselves. It’s a tough one to manage because if you want to be yourself then it’s likely going to mean going against whatever you have been told that you should be doing. A lot of people don’t have the inner strength to do this, and instead they continue to change themselves into someone that they are not, pretending to be happy about it.
The only way to break this cycle is to ignore what society demands of you and do what you want to do. Only change things about yourself if you want to because it will make you happy. For example, if you want to revitalize your facial features for your own benefit, then do it, but don’t do it for someone else. The same goes for losing or gaining weight, or making any kind of change to your appearance or personality.
Work On Finding Your Personal Style
Your personal style is just that – personal. If you don’t like the kind of clothes that are in fashion at the moment, then there’s no reason for you to wear them. A lot of your confidence will come from the way that you dress because of how it makes you feel about yourself. If you’re not comfortable in what you are wearing, or if you don’t feel like it’s you, then you’re not going to be able to feel this confidence.
As such, you should take the time to start working on finding your personal style. This might mean trying on different colors, different types of clothing, and maybe even speaking to a professional stylist to get some tips. When all is said and done, you should be comfortable in what you are wearing, as well as feeling like you look good.
Remember The Opinions Of Others Don’t Matter
It’s extremely common for people to get swept up in the opinions of others, but this is the worst thing that you can do. The opinions that other people hold should not have any kind of determination in how you feel about yourself, nor should they impact the way that you choose to carry yourself. When you are tempted to consider the opinions of others about you, ask yourself this question: would you take advice from this person? If the answer is no, then there is absolutely no reason for you to be taking criticism from them either.
The only opinion that truly matters is your own, because you are the one who has to live with yourself. You are the one who has to feel your feelings, you are the one who has to look like you, and that means that you are the only one with a right to have an opinion. Do your best to ensure that this doesn’t get warped and changed into something else due to the societal expectations out there, because the last thing that you want is to lose the real you. You are amazing just the way that you are, and you shouldn’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
At the end of the day, confidence is not something that you should have to fake because it’s something that you should already have. Even if you can’t feel it at the moment, it’s something that should always be there quietly, just waiting for the day where you feel it again. Nobody said that it was going to be an easy road to bringing back your confidence, but it’s worth every second when you start to feel so much better about yourself and who you are. We wish you the very best of luck, and hope that you see results asap.